I am growing up.

Thesedays, I try to have enough time to think about myself.


I am growing up. (It does not mean I am gaining weight.)


It is to do with my thinking, my ideas, my resolutions, my plans and my body as well.


Once when I discussed this with Alan, I suddenly realized the mistakes I was making when trying to teach people.


When I teach somebody something like how to play drums or how to use the computer well, I usually say,


At one time I used to be very poor and weak at it and did not have the confidence to do it - just like you. But even though I was much worse than you are. I can do it now, so I think it is possible for you to learn how to do it too.


But saying this did not give them confidence. In fact rather than encouraging them my words discouraged them even more.


This might have a bearing on what I wrote before about words; More than words (21st Oct 2005). Even though my intentions are good, they sometimes have the reverse effect and person feels hurt and disappointed.


The solution is to treat somebody with more understanding, to listen more and to say less.
I'll try to do both, and then I'll grow up. FINE.